So you have laid out your financial plan, whether it involves chipping away at debt, save a large sum of money for a down payment, or pursuing another substantial financial milestone.
Unfortunately, given the enormity of your plan, some big sacrifices are needed. Truth be told, this isn’t a walk in the park. You are talking skipping vacations for a year or two, downgrading your car, giving up on or reducing some of your daily pleasures – $5 lattes – and more.
This is not easy! We want to get to our goals, but are not ready to make these big sacrifices. And frankly, no matter how important your goal is, it doesn’t seem worthwhile that far in the future when you have to give up so much in the immediate term.
Go Gradual and Build Momentum
I have been there and it is not easy. First off, the very act of giving this process a start date is a bit depressing, albeit psychologically rewarding. For example, you have just had a great Christmas holiday season, partying with friends, feasting with families, and just having the best and most wonderful time of your life and the year. You then have to suddenly go cold turkey on January 1st and deprive yourself of half of the things you were enjoying just a few days ago. That is not only cruel, it is borderline inhumane. Not to mention, our brains will likely rebel as the task seems too steep to climb.
There is an easy solution to this: rather than going the nuclear option, take easy steps and build momentum gradually. For example, instead of deciding to completely eliminate any vacations, decide to tone it down. If you spend $10K a year on family vacations each year, pledge to spend half of that rather than cutting it completely. And then by next year, cut another thousand and so on. Do the same with other big expenses that you have. If you love your expensive Starbucks coffee run and tend to do it multiple times a day, then try to eliminate one of these trips a day as a start. Even that one trip will save you hundreds in a year.
By implementing these gradual shifts, you’re setting the stage for a sustainable transformation. Each small change builds upon the last, and before you know it, you’re ascending your financial mountain with newfound confidence. The road may be long, but remember: it’s not about denying yourself entirely, but rather navigating smarter and more deliberately toward your financial peak.
We all have goals, whether small ones like making it to the weekend without quitting our job, or big ones like graduating college. But what sets true goal setters from those who end up quitting and not achieving their goals? Simply putting it on paper!
And yes this is backed by science , so why not explore it further together, so you too can use this simple hack to get closer to your goals.
In a fascinating study conducted by Dr. Gail Matthews, psychology professor at Dominican University in California, the profound influence of written goal setting was revealed. With a sample size of 267 participants, Dr. Matthews went deep into the question of whether simply writing down our goals could enhance our chances of achieving them. That is, if two people have the same conditions, timeline and goal, can one have the edge in achieving these goals by simply writing them down on paper?
The results were astonishing to say the least. Participants who engaged in the act of writing down their goals experienced a significant 42 percent increase in the likelihood of reaching their goals. This seemingly straightforward practice had a remarkable effect on the participants’ success rates.
The implications of this study are far-reaching. It suggests that the act of putting our aspirations into written words can instill a sense of commitment, clarity, and motivation within us. By giving our goals a tangible form, we create a bridge between the realm of thoughts and the realm of action. The written word becomes a powerful reminder, guiding our focus and propelling us forward. So why not use this little hack to achieve your wealth and financial goals? For example, if you are trying to achieve financial independence in the next 10 years, and your aim is to have $1million in networth, then you need to put that into a concise and clear sentence and make it a habit to write it in a journal book on a regular, if not daily basis.
Writing down our goals not only provides us with a visual representation of our aspirations but also serves as a blueprint for planning and strategizing. It allows us to break down our goals into actionable steps, fostering a sense of organization and purpose. That is, it is not that writing things down will magically happen. But rather, when you write something down, it is almost like you are sending a signal to your brain that this is important and matters a lot to you. With that cue, the brain then creates the conditions and environment for you to succeed to get to your goals faster, easier and with better certainty. Put another way, the act of writing itself engages our cognitive processes in a unique way. It stimulates our memory, reinforces our intentions, and strengthens our commitment. It is as if the written words create a pact with our subconscious, ensuring that our desires remain at the forefront of our minds.
So, let us embrace the power of pen and paper. Let us take the time to articulate our goals, to breathe life into our ambitions through the act of writing. By doing so, we unlock a greater likelihood of achievement and embark on a path of purposeful progress.
Often times, we make mistakes in life but fail to learn from them or take any lessons. While making mistakes is not the end of the world, the bigger mistake is when we don’t take any lessons or learn from these mistakes. For example, financially speaking, if you took a credit card in your younger years and maxed it out, and took you years to pay it off, there should have been a powerful lesson to take from this: that it is much easier to spend money than it is to pay back it, so much easier to avoid debt at all costs.
Developing a good feedback system to learn from these mistakes is a must, if we want to learn and not repeat them again and again. How do you design such a system and what does it involve? To simplify things, this is a mental model and not something you have to jot down on a paper or in a computer; unless you are a big corporation. Here are some steps to consider when establishing such a system:
Establish clear performance metrics: Define clear and measurable performance metrics or goals that serve as benchmarks for evaluating success. These metrics can help identify deviations or errors when performance falls short of expectations.
Conduct thorough analysis: When a mistake or error is noticed, conduct a comprehensive analysis to understand its root causes. This can involve gathering relevant data, examining the sequence of events, and involving others if needed, such as family members.
Promote learning and improvement: Once the analysis is complete, focus on extracting meaningful insights and lessons from the mistake. Reflect and engage in brainstorming sessions to generate ideas for preventing similar errors in the future. Develop action plans and strategies to address identified issues and improve processes
Monitor and evaluate progress: Continuously monitor the effectiveness of the feedback system you have developed and the implemented improvements. Assess whether the changes have resulted in a reduction in mistakes or errors and whether there has been a positive impact on overall performance. Make adjustments to the system as necessary based on the feedback received.
In conclusion, learning from our mistakes is an essential part of personal and professional growth. It is not enough to simply acknowledge our errors; we must actively seek to extract valuable lessons from them. By establishing a feedback system that incorporates clear performance metrics, thorough analysis, promotion of learning and improvement, and ongoing monitoring and evaluation, we can create a framework for continuous learning and development. Remember, mistakes are not meant to define us, but rather to guide us toward better choices and actions. Embrace the opportunity to learn from your missteps, and let them propel you toward a future filled with progress and success.
The COVID-19 pandemic has fundamentally changed the way we live our lives, forcing us to stay at home and rely on technology more than ever before. While platforms like UberEats, Amazon, and TikTok were already popular, they have become ubiquitous during the lockdowns, to the point where they are now virtually synonymous with the pandemic itself. But it’s not just these platforms that have captured our attention and loyalty; there are countless others that have kept us glued to our screens and spending money in ways we never imagined. From social media giants like Instagram, Facebook, and Snapchat to e-commerce sites like Etsy and Wayfair, these platforms have become an integral part of our daily routines, and for many, even an addiction. In this post, we’ll explore the dangers of these habits, the impact they can have on our lives, and what we can do to break free from their grip.
Many of us have developed a routine of mindlessly using apps to the point of forming automated habits, without considering the negative consequences they may have on our lives. In fact, recent studies on the power of habits indicate that habits can either work for us or against us, and in the case of excessive use of certain apps, it is clearly the latter. As we reach the third anniversary of lockdowns caused by the pandemic, it is time to take stock of the bad habits that we may have picked up during this time. The amount of money we have wasted on online ordering of food, clothing, electronics, and other items is staggering. However, this is only the tip of the iceberg. The countless hours we have lost to endless scrolling through TikTok, Reels, and YouTube shorts are equally alarming. These hours could have been utilized for more productive activities that could have provided us with a better return on our investment of time.
Where do you start? first, take an inventory of the apps that you started using more often 3 years ago and have continued to do till now, to the point of addiction. Let us take TikTok (time waste) or UberEarts (Money waste) to tackle, since they are most synonymous with the lockdowns and which most people have continued to use extensively till this day. Personally speaking, I am proud to say that I have virtually never used either service. I don’t have a TikTok account, and although I have an UberEats account, I have used it once or twice, and even that was for other family members. Check these apps and see how much time and money is being wasted on them. For time spent on apps, check ‘Screen Time’ on iOS or ‘Digital WellBeing’ on Android. As for money being spent using UberEats or other food ordering and delivery platforms, simply check your credit card statement or online bank account.
Once you identify the major sources of time and money leak, take proper and concrete steps to address the issue. You can go the easy route or start small by deciding how much time/money you would like to dedicate to each per month. Or you could take the nuclear option and just remove both apps altogether. Yes, going cold turkey on apps you are addicted to may not be easy, but you could give it a try. It will hurt in the first few days or weeks, but will get easy later. In fact, it will not only get easier, you will feel like a new person – relieved – with all the money and time saved.
Some people may use these apps for their convenience. While others enjoy what they offer, after all, what is wrong with some binge watching after a long day at work or school? And while that may be true, we all know the slippery slope this creates, and may not wake up to things until it is too late. Of course, there are always exceptions and some may have more self control than others.
In conclusion, the COVID-19 lockdowns have brought about an increased reliance on online platforms, leading to the development of addictive habits that can have serious consequences on our time and money. It’s essential to take inventory of our app usage and identify the sources of time and money leaks, such as TikTok and UberEats, which have become synonymous with the lockdowns. While these apps may be convenient or even enjoyable, they can also lead to wasted time and money. Therefore, it’s crucial to take concrete steps to address the issue, whether it’s setting limits or going cold turkey. By doing so, we can reclaim our time and money and develop healthier habits for the future.
-eating your fruits and vegetables, and avoiding junk food -reading books and enriching your mind with positive thoughts -socializing and connecting with educated and knowledgeable friends
If done holistically and on a consistent basis, these three will ensure the future version of you is a super one. One that is exponentially better than your current version of yourself. In other words, your personal development will be super charged and on overspeed when you do these things together and consistently.
You are one third what you eat, one third what you think, and one third who your peers are. In other words, to be the super version of yourself, surround yourself with people who are educated, wise and wealthy, eat healthy and exercise, and most importantly, think good and positive thoughts. We have all heard the adage that you are the average of the 5 people you most associate and surround yourself with. And while that is true, we can extend that to how we treat our bodies and minds.
What you eat
Eating healthy is a no-brainer and we should all do it. But what is lost on so many is how eating healthy – or unhealthy- can quickly compound over time. And before you know it, you will either wish you had started your healthy habits or be thankful you did. In fact, results shouldn’t take a long time to see. I personally vowed and worked hard on lowering my cholesterol and in less than 1 year, I managed to lower it by over 8%. Same goes with weight loss. Going even one week without junk food, while loading up on water, fruits and vegetables, helps me achieve weight loss that would otherwise take a lot longer. You can achieve even better and faster results by combining healthy food ritual with walking and exercising.
What you think
It is no rocket science, but being an optimist and positive person in life, will bring you greater happiness and life sanctification, which in turn lead to other positive cascading effects on other areas of your life. Make it a habit to intentional think happy, positive and wealthy thoughts. Think possible when presented with challenges and other daily life obstacles. As you do this more and more, it becomes like a programmed subconscious routine that will propel you forward when faced with any difficult challenges, instead of shying away from it. Like a lot of things in the human body and brain, as you continuously think happy and positive thoughts, you strengthen that brain muscle and in the future will automatically emit these positive vibes. As a crucial aspect of your personal growth and development, it is important to cultivate an attitude of gratitude for both what you have in the present moment and what you strive to attain in the future. By embracing this practice of constant gratitude, you invite more positivity, abundance and fulfilment into your life. That in turn will attract the things that align with your values and desires. And last but not least, it is important to enrich your brain and no better way to do that than with reading books.
Who you are surrounded by
A lot of you have heard the famous saying that you are the average of the 5 people you associate with the most. Associate with 5 people who are educated, wealthy, hard working, and you will likely be very similar in those aspects. The idea is that the people with whom we spend the most time shape our attitudes, habits, and decision-making processes, thus influencing who we are and what we become in the future. This highlights the importance of surrounding ourselves with positive and supportive individuals who align with our values and goals, as they can have a significant impact on our personal growth and development. It’s a reminder to be intentional about the company we keep, and to surround ourselves with people who will elevate us, rather than bring us down. And in fact, this is not only limited to friends but family as well. While you don’t have to cancel them out of your life, if you have a family member who is very negative and has a bad influence on you, try to keep your distance from them and don’t associate with them too much.
Let us add it all together
In conclusion, it’s clear that our thoughts, habits and relationships all play a critical role in shaping our personal growth and development. From what we eat, to how we think, to who we spend our time with the most, each of these 3 aspects has the power to influence and improve our lives in meaningful ways. But combined together and practiced consistently, they will give you a super version of yourself that is healthier, wealthier and wiser. By making conscious choices to adopt healthy habits, cultivate positive thinking, and surround ourselves with supportive and inspiring people, we can create a foundation for growth, success and happiness. So, take control of your life, embrace change, and start building a better version of yourself today.
When reading a financial tip or advise, we sometimes shrug it off and think that we already know about it. But knowing is different from applying.
This is the case with spare change and how they can help us save money, but it is still not obvious enough to make people keep them handy.
Having coins handy can go a long way in reducing your spending and in turn maximizing your savings. When you break a bill, no matter how big, chances are you will spend the leftover money faster than if the bill was never used. Having spare change on the other hand will help you avoid breaking up big bills. This trick is more psychological in nature but it works.
The thing we buy most often while at work or driving is probably coffee. And this is pretty much an everyday occurrence. If you save enough change, you could go days without having to break any of your big bills. Which means more money in your pocket.
If on the other hand, you need to buy something that will cost you a a dollar or two, and you have no change, you will have to break a big bill, like a $20. What will happen next, you are left with some change and smaller bills. Once the big bill has been broken, a psychological barrier has also been broken. Now that the bill is smaller, you are more likely to spend it. And as it gets smaller, you will be even more and more likely to spend it all, and so on.
Therefore, and to keep your bills intact, and not have to break a $50 for a $2 coffee, be sure to have as much change handy as possible. It is a paradox to think that having spare change can act as defense against spending your bigger bill and it is. Try it, and it won’t be too long before you get into a habit of not wanting to break your big bills and only use spare change for smaller purchases.
The field of self-help and psychology in general is full of different techniques, concepts and tricks to accomplish your goals, get more done, and make it easier to manifest more in life. Two recent, unrelated events, gave me the chance to use these tools and although both happened around the same time, the two are unrelated, but do at the end of the day help us get more out of life in general.
2020Olympics
I am a huge fan of the summer Olympics and usually watch most of the coverage. But ever since the 2008 Olympics, I noticed I get something much more from this global sports spectacle than just watching and cheering on Canadian and other favourite athletes and teams. I noticed the Olympics literally motivate me to push harder in my workouts and fitness (be it weightlifting, walking, hiking etc) . And by extension, this may spill into other areas of my life, but the fitness side of it is the one that benefits the most.
It is no wonder that my Apple Watch reported some of my best number in the last 3 weeks. And the more amazing or record-shattering the event is, the more it seems to subconsciously motivate me and push me to try new records or streaks. You could see that I am more than a casual follower and have a deeper connection with the games and athletes. I think about the sacrifices and hard work they put into their preparation to reach this stage. That somehow motivates me to work out harder.
Niagara Falls
my wife is in the middle of opening her own business, which should go live in about 2 weeks. So as we are in the home stretch, there are more things to finalize, complete and check off. On a recent trip to Niagara Falls, as we were looking and marveling at the falls and the gushing water, I did a little psychological experiment with my wife to get her subconscious working in her favour in her business endeavor: I asked her to look at the gushing water for 10 seconds and fully focus on it, including the loud sound of the fast falling water . I then told her to close her eyes and imagine this to be your business and water here is your cash flow. Visualize your business generating so much revenue like this non-stop overflowing waterfall.
This psychological exercise – which I literally came up with in the moment – seems to have struck the right mental spot with my wife as she embraced it and enjoyed the imagery. Then throughout the trip, and to drive the point further, I kept reminding her of the waterfall as a metaphor for her business generating so much revenue and lots of cash flow. In fact, our hotel room was facing the falls, so she was able to apply this mental imagery several times over 2 days.
In our journey to success and goal completion, be it in our careers, health, business or other areas of our life, it helps to form metaphors or imagery to create a lasting subconscious imprint. And once you have imprinted it on your subconscious, it will pretty much help you march forward and manifest your goals. Just remember, this is no substitute for hard work. Just use the two as complimentary to one another.
What is your metaphor to get to your goal? What imagery have you used to help your brain visualize your goal and outcomes in a more favourable manner?
Here is the problem with the current pandemic we are living in, other than the obvious health and economic implications impacting billions around the world: it is the fact that it came almost unannounced and that we have no end date in sight. It would have been much easier if we were told, for example, that the pandemic will last for 6 months (e.g March 10 to October 10) and we all go back to our normal lives after that. But it has been more like a playoff hockey game, where we have 3 periods, followed by overtime that could go on and on until someone scores a goal. While we can see some light at the end of the tunnel, we are far from seeing this thing through. In fact, for Canada at least, we are being told the population as a whole will not get vaccinated in full until early to mid 2022. And considering that pandemic restrictions and curfews started in March 2020, that will be a full 2 years that we will have to put up with living our lives in seclusion and isolation from one another and our usual leisure activities etc. For pre-teens for example, that almost one quarter of their life spent in mandatory isolation from society!
That means, at least for most of us, we have only finished the first half of this boring and dangerous game called Covid19: the second half is yet to start and will last through much of this fresh year and early next year. Unless there is a big breakthrough that will massively scale vaccine production and delivery to Canada and other parts of the world, which doesn’t seem likely at this point. So, with so much more free time on our hands, why not do something useful with it, so that when it is all said and done, these 1-2 years of your life will not be defined by Covid19, pandemic and vaccines, but rather how you used it to advance your life in every area possible. I did it myself already and you can too. Let me go through some of what I was able to accomplish in 2020, and what I would like to continue doing for 2021, until we see us through this once in a lifetime pandemic.
Heath
When the pandemic started, in my first week of working from home and with my GYM being closed, I literally looked at my wife and said: “how will we do this?” it was a week in which I opened the door to our fridge more than I opened any other door in the bedroom or the entire house. That was March. Then came April and something changed. Despite the weather still being cold-even snowy at times-I started to walk, sometimes alone and sometimes with my wife who was off work due to the lock-down. Then in June, as some restrictions were eased, our local trails and hiking parks reopened and i started to frequent them on a semi-daily basis. I also bought dumbbell sets to work out at home, during my breaks from work. To put it into prospective, by the time the lock-downs started, I was around 180 lbs and by new year’s eve, I had gone down to 167 lbs, and body fat from 25% to 17%! That is 13 lbs loss and 8% body fat reduction, with no GYM! All because I took the decision to walk and work out, even with no formal GYM to go to. Last but not least, using my Apple Watch, I am currently on a 203 day move streak, going all the way back to July 12! That is how long I have been active on a daily basis.
Wealth
I am proud to say I spent the entire lock-down so far without once shopping off Amazon, unlike the majority of the population! With not much to do, I saved most of my money and I did two things that will benefit me tremendously for the long term: first, I bought stocks when the market bottomed out in late March, and again during the summer and fall. Every single one of these positions were in blue chip high-yielding stocks. Combined, I will be making over $1800 in annual dividend returns ($450 a quarter) . The other thing I did with all the money saved during the lock-down was to pay off my line of credit balance of $8,500. It would have been close to impossible to do this had there been no lock-down, where i would have otherwise spent my money in a multitude of ways. Between the two (LoC payment + dividends), I now have $600 of net monthly income that I am saving/getting.
Self Development
Depending on how you define this, to me it is the process or steps you take to develop your character, learn new things, or help you reach new goals in life. Going by this definition, 2020 was one of my best years ever. The things I was able to accomplish speak for themselves and prove that you can turn an otherwise terrible year into something productive and better yourself in the process. To start, and this is as synonymous as it gets with the concept of self development, this was a record year for book reading for me. I was able to read a total of 20 books, compared to my average of 3-5 books on average. Not only that, but some of these books were business and technology references, one of which helped me earn an industry-recognized certificate specific to my profession. 2020 was also a year in which I found a huge new interest in audio-books and podcasts. For the latter, I have even developed a new hobby: podcast driving. This is the act of driving for leisure while listening to my favorite podcasts shows. From March to December, I listened to around 500 podcast episodes, in a variety of topics.
Don’t let another year go to waste, start now!
I am not here to download the seriousness of Covid-19 and the terrible human loss for millions of people around the world. But the point is to not let it define us. If 2020 was defined by a pandemic and lock-down, and nothing else for you, you still have time to make 2021 better and more productive year. Start by setting some small but specific short term goals: how about finishing a book, losing 5 lbs, saving $1,000 and so on. As you start and gain some momentum, you will notice wanting to go for more and then the sky is the limit. Think of a snowball that starts small and as it goes down the hill, it gets bigger and bigger.
As you read at the start of this article, I started with a simple question and a simple walk, and those progressed into much bigger goals and accomplishments. And in fact, I am even more fired up for 2021. For January, and thanks to a milder weather so far, I have walked almost every day, for a minimum of 30 minutes. My fear was that I would start gaining some weight back during the cold winter months. Thankfully, that never materialized and I have kept the weight off. As they say, if I can do it, so can you. In fact, you may be be able to do more than I do, depending on your personal circumstances (whether you have a family, kids, full time job etc) . I would love to hear some success stories of how people used these pandemic months and years to better themselves and start a new chapter in their life that will forever change them for the better. Ditch the countless hours of Netflix binge-viewing and Tiktok scrolling and pick a book, go for a daily walk, or start a new online course!
I am no gambler or a gambling addict. I go to the casino when I am on vacation and happen to be close to a casino (Vegas anyone?) . And where I live, I rarely go to the casion. So the whole thing is like a novelty to me.
However, ever since OLG (Ontario Lottery Gaming; the body that regulates gambling in the province of Ontario) introduced online gambling through PlayOlg.ca , I found myself gambling a bit too much for my standards. At least 1-2 times a month, for a total of about $30. I know, that may sound like nothing, and although I enjoy playing, I am careful to never exceed my losing tolerance.
This past August, I took a trip to Vegas, and this being a place where you can not easily avoid gambling, I fell in love with the Wheel of Forune slot machine. And to my fortune (pun intended), when I came back home, I realized PlayOlg.ca has this popular slot machine. Ever since, when I play online, I spend every cent playing this game. The thrill of waiting to spin the wheel is a lesson in pavlovian stimuli. In fact, the addiction got to a point where I was even going on youtube to watch others video playing this game. Don’t get me wrong, I may be using the word ‘addicted’ a bit too loosely here, becasue I was still playing the same amount as I have always played. The only difference is, instead of using my semi-monthly minimum deposit of $15 on different slot machine games, I was putting all of it on Wheel of Fortune.
And then I found an escape out of this addiction and it didn’t come accidentally. Thankfully, PlayOlg.ca allows you to play any of their online slot games for free, in addition to playing with real money. So when I was out of money, I would switch to the free version, to satisfy my addiction to the WOF game. As I played the free version, and despite no money being involved, I found myself getting enough satisfaction from it. In fact, I tested this theory by depositing money and instead of playing for money first, to play for free first. And after doing this for about 15-20 min, I didn’t have the strong urge to spend my wagered money. My brain’s thirst to see the wheel spin was satisfied using the free games, so it didn’t care much for playing using real money, even if it meant winning no money.
This has now been my strategy to deal with online gambling ‘addiction’ and it has proved so successful, that I sometimes got a whole month without depositing money. I just use the free version and that satisfies my gambling ‘addiction’ and provides me that perfect pavlovian stimulus (the simple act of spinning the wheel, which may or may not mean big money in the real game)
How can you apply this to a real slot machine at a casino? Most likely, there will be no free version to play. Instead, look at finding free online slot machines to play at home before you head to the casino. After playing for an hour or more, you may found that you won’t be as eager and looking forward to your trip to the casino as you would have been if you didn’t play online for free. The free version will most likely satisfy your inner addicition. It worked for free and it doesn’t hurt to try and save yourself from the destruction of online or real gambling.
If you did, then you know what I am about to talk about: how much of your wealth accumulation do you attribute to your positive thinking, believing in the ‘Law of Attraction’ etc.?
In other words, do you think that the road to wealth and riches starts from the brain and how we think about money? That is, thinking poorly ‘I can’t afford that’ will always keep you down while thinking positively about your finances ‘I pay all my bills on time’ will help you become better financially in the future.
Rich people didn’t just become rich by pure luck or hard work. For most, it started at their subconscious level or in their minds.
I would be interested to hear your stories and approach to riches and how much of it is due to psychology and having a positive affirmation approach? How much do you employ the concept of ‘Law of Attraction’ to gain what you need? For example, if you have a dream of buying a house by the beach, what steps do you take from a visualization point of view to attain your dream?
